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Published on March 17, 2005 By voodoostation In Home & Family
I'm listening to Van Morrison, "Tupelo Honey", and reading some of the stuff on the site. My wife's been gone for a week now, visiting family. I've been working, that's what I do. Not much for vacation, I tend to get antsy if I'm not working. Every time she leaves it hurts more when she goes. We've been married now for almost seven years, known each other for almost 9. For those of you in love, or have been, I have a few questions, so please bear me out if you will.

1. Do you still look at her/him in a sort of dumbstruck awe?

2. Do you still daydream about her/him?

3. Do you do cheesy things like write music, songs, poetry for her/him?

4. Do you kiss her/him good morning?

5. Do you kiss her/him as soon as you get home from work?

6. Do you still surprise her/him with gifts or flowers?

7. Do you ever picture your life without them?

8. Do you believe in love at first sight?

9. Do you still prefer her/his company?

10. Do you miss her/him like the dickens while she/he is gone?

11. Do you do stupid polls like this while listening to Van Morrison?

I didn't date before I met my wife. I didn't pay much attention to women at all growing up. Granted, I had some crushes as a child, but that was about it. I dreamed of this girl since I could remember dreaming and she was the only one I ever paid any attention for. I knew at a very early age who I was looking for but I never knew her name. I knew how tall she would be, what colour her hair would be, her complexion, the colour of her eyes. I came close a couple times but not close enough. One of the last times I dreamt of her I met her under a tree in a park I had never been in, in a town I had only been in for a couple months. She was sitting with her back against a tree. A few months later, I looked for that park and found it. I also found the tree. She, of course, wasn't there. It would be almost five years before I found her, nowhere near a tree. But I knew what she looked like.

I'm a born romantic, I guess. I like the romantic movies, the romantic comedies, the happily ever after movies. I don't consider myself to be soft, I'm a damn man. I'm occassionally crude, I'm just a guy. I vehemently dislike most people, I'm extremely antisocial. I do everything myself. I very easily could have been a confirmed bachelor. I cook, clean, sew, fix damn near anything, I can do just about anything. I love my wife, though, I gotta tell ya. It used to be me against the world. Now there's two of us. That's nice. We've got each other's back now. Twice as strong as we used to be. And she believes in me. Can't beat that for any money. So is love overrated?

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on Mar 18, 2005
I loved your article! You seem like you miss her dearly and have a soft spot behind the mask I personally dont think love is overrated, here are my answers:

1. Do you still look at her/him in a sort of dumbstruck awe? Actually i still do, he always hides his face behind his hands when i do that! lol!

2. Do you still daydream about her/him? 100% positive! I always day dream about finally be in his arms when a working day goes too slow...

3. Do you do cheesy things like write music, songs, poetry for her/him? No, i'm too bad for that, he on the other hand wil grab his guitar and start singing something he just invented, hehe!

4. Do you kiss her/him good morning? Well we dont live together, so whenever we meet up or say bye we kiss.

5. Do you kiss her/him as soon as you get home from work? See previous answer

6. Do you still surprise her/him with gifts or flowers? Gifts: He bought a new truck and i surprised with him (a couple of weeks ago) with a brand new personalised number plate. He was so happy that it just made my day

7. Do you ever picture your life without them? Not in the near future, but i dont know about mariage or whatever else. We're just taking things as they come after all we've been through.

8. Do you believe in love at first sight? Nope. I believe you have to work on love for it to exist and remain.

9. Do you still prefer her/his company? Of course I do!

10. Do you miss her/him like the dickens while she/he is gone? Oh yeah, even when we're just apart for a couple of days i feel lost. The phone wont do, i need a warm hug at least once a day so i can have his scent with me through the day!

11. Do you do stupid polls like this while listening to Van Morrison? *sigh* I guess i would if he was gone and i had music at work!

Cheers
on Mar 18, 2005
Well, I don't guess my situation is really in sync with this, but I can't resist these little quizzes...soo...

1. Do you still look at her/him in a sort of dumbstruck awe?

The last time I saw him, yes...

2. Do you still daydream about her/him?

Most of that has faded, although I used to.

3. Do you do cheesy things like write music, songs, poetry for her/him?

Not anymore, but I used to write him love notes. I send him sweet (or naughty) emails from time to time.

4. Do you kiss her/him good morning?

When he was home, he'd always kiss me while I was sleeping as he was leaving for PT.

5. Do you kiss her/him as soon as you get home from work?

Well, he's not here, but before, hmmm...not right away, no...but we kissed all the time.

6. Do you still surprise her/him with gifts or flowers?

Yes. The last thing I sent him was a t-shirt that said "All I want is peace in the middle east...and a blow job"...hehe...he loved it.

7. Do you ever picture your life without them?

Yes. But I didn't used to.

8. Do you believe in love at first sight?

No. I believe in lust at first sight, though.

9. Do you still prefer her/his company?

Yes. Absolutely.

10. Do you miss her/him like the dickens while she/he is gone?

Yes, but it eases up a little bit as time goes on.

11. Do you do stupid polls like this while listening to Van Morrison?

I'm listening to the Beatles right now, so...no.
on Mar 18, 2005
Aww, love. You're all so sickeningly lucky. I've been married for almost 4 years...

1. Do you still look at her/him in a sort of dumbstruck awe? Yes, in dumbstruck awe of "why the hell did I marry him?"

2. Do you still daydream about her/him? Still daydream about him? Did I ever?

3. Do you do cheesy things like write music, songs, poetry for her/him? This song comes to mind, "Husband in a coma, I know, I know it's really serious. There are times when I could have strangled him. But you know I would hate anything to happen to him."

4. Do you kiss her/him good morning? We've never kissed each other.

5. Do you kiss her/him as soon as you get home from work? See above answer.

6. Do you still surprise her/him with gifts or flowers? I sneaked a "happy birthday" banner into the shopping cart the other day when he wasn't looking. I think he found it when he was putting away the groceries though. His b-day is tomorrow. He's making himself a cake.

7. Do you ever picture your life without him? All the time.

8. Do you believe in love at first sight? I believe in it, but I've never experienced it. Lust at first sight makes more sense.

9. Do you still prefer her/his company? It's a comfortable sort of thing.

10. Do you miss her/him like the dickens while she/he is gone? No. I feel freer and stronger when we're apart.

11. Do you do stupid polls like this while listening to Van Morrison? Ummm...
on Mar 18, 2005
1. While I am dumb, I wouldn't say I'm dumbstruck.
2. All the time.
3. Not exactly the things you mentioned, but I would in an instant if I thought she would like it.
4. Every chance I have.
5. I would if I could.
6. Not lately, but I have in the past and would like to again.
7. Unfortunatly.
8. Yes.
9. Over anyone elses? Yep.
A. Yes
B. Don't think I've listened to van morrison, so no
Love isn't overrated, it's just often overcomplicated. I'm glad you have someone you love, even if they are away for a while.